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    Reflections and Lessons of 2011


    I guess that’s the thing with years, you can’t really predict them. Reflecting back as often as I do for 2011, there have been some concrete life defining lessons that I have either learned, or once again been reminded of:


    Friendship is a Scarce Commodity…


    Not everyone is a friend. You are a friend to some, a story to most. Most who know me, will know that I place heavy importance on the value of friendship. In the process of reciprocation, I have learned that a true friend will return the same respect and priority not only when you test them, but also when others do as well.



    I Found Myself Only When I Lost Who I Was…



    Metaphorically and literally speaking, this was one of the most valuable lessons I learned. Losing some of the most important relationships, losing some of the traits and characteristics I had been associated with, was the only way I was able to find who I was. There is always some winning in losing. Leaving a part of me behind in the first half of 2011, I began to find and re-build myself through the core values I believe in.

    Redemption Does Not Come When Others Forgive You; Rather When You Forgive Yourself.



    I’ve struggled with this all my life…Looking to please others, seeking acceptance from friends. When I did make mistakes, as I made quite a few in 2011, these were the places I would look to, to seek redemption.

    I guess that’s the thing with falling, everyone is there to watch you, but no one is there to help you.

    One my greatest personal joy of 2011 was realizing redemption within me. I learned that it is not someone else who will forgive me, it is not anyone else’s problem or pain that I am trying to heal, and lastly it is not someone else who I am trying to make better…. all of this, I should seek within myself.



    “Learning how to let go is painful; But letting go is redemption. Redemption.” - S.Kamal



    Finding redemption within myself felt like I was re-born, like I had a new opportunity in my life and I would carry on with the scars and lessons of yesterday, but finally with a possibility of a tomorrow.

    To anyone seeking redemption in their lives, I tell them to always look deep inside of them, the forgiveness and direction they seek will lie in their heart.

    For Every Action, There’s a Reaction.



    This has been a small reminder throughout the year, and something that I hopefully strive to live by. To remind myself that for every action I take and choice I make, I am affecting the lives of others. I wish to carry myself with the utmost respect, and will constantly remind myself that my actions should reflect that.

    Passion is at The Heart of it All.



    Lastly, I learned that I am a passionate person. Without passion, there is no purpose. I cannot stress that enough in my life. Whether it’s being environmentally conscious, to discussing hiphop, technology, or the weather, or as many have come to realize, (Google) APPLE! (<3) I am passionate about it all! Passion is my fuel, and I have embraced it!

    2011 is in the books. I’ve lost, learned and earned it all back. The scars and memories will remain a roadmap to the past. 2012 remains an enigma, and I am excited to unlock it with the new me.

    Cheers and have a great New Years!
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